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30 May 2019

Divine Muva Diva, June 2

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May 30, 2019 Category: Local Posted by:

Dear Muva:

How do I best reconcile the feeling of loneliness (as a single woman in leadership) with my calling and purpose?

Signed, Feeling Judged

Dear Feeling Judged,

A calling and purpose in no way negates wanting to have a meaningful connection with that special someone, and it can be done without compromising yourself on any level.

You also owe no explanation to those who choose to judge instead of understanding your level of purpose in life. It is not meant for all, anyway, as the saboteurs are never too far away.

Leadership at the highest levels most certainly means walking the path alone sometimes. Your deepest joy comes from you alone, so choose activities that make your heart happy – it could be curled up in a chair with a good book, traveling locally or internationally, rollerblading or swimming, for example. 

While you may feel lonely at times, things will shift as you continue on your path. Just be aware and ready for when that special person shows up. In the meantime, continue to operate in your highest vibrational waves, as the world needs leadership with purpose.

Dear Muva:

My wife ignores me and mumbles when l ask her questions. Why is that? Are all women that way?

Signed, Husband in need

Dear Husband in need,

You may NOT believe this, but Muva is willing to bet that your wife heard every word you said and has deemed in her head that you are not sick, it is not an emergency, and that no one has died.

How do l know this, you ask?

It’s really simple. Women have developed over the years, especially after having children, a keen sense of hearing. We often “tune in” or “tune out,” based on the tone of the voices around us.

It has become, for the wise among us, a self-preservation tool to maintain our sanity, as someone is always trying to get our attention.

Since we are not computers that can take in all manner of communications without emotion, our ears only perk up by tone and certain key words.

Take heart – we mumble only when we feel we do not need to tune in, but you can get our attention by tapping us to fully listen.

Just know that our goals are not to ignore or hurt your feelings. Speak to your wife and let her know your concerns. If she loves and respects you on any level, she will make a concerted effort to change. If she does not – well, you have another kind of scenario on your hands. I am hoping for the best.

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